challenges single fathers face

Challenges Single Fathers Face and Ways to Overcome Them – a thoughtful Guest Blog on self-care from a fathers’ perspective…

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It’s well-known that women are more proactive than men in many areas resulting in greater awareness of their issues. However, let’s not forget that fathers are as integral and crucial factors in the raising of children. We all know how hard parenting is, and for single parents it’s even harder as there is no-one to pick up or take over if/when we reach our limits. Single fathers and mothers incorporate their nurturing, sentimental sides, and quietly debunk many stereo-typical myths. Despite the lack of voice – one of the key challenges single fathers face – just like single mothers, single fathers also face stressful situations requiring them to integrate crucial strategies in their efforts to be the best parents they can. As a single father I am raising my voice in support of all single-parents – with a special focus on single dads..
Here are some ways to overcome the difficulties of single fatherhood and take care of your own mental, physical, and emotional well-being to help you remain a functioning member of general society.

Get Support

Since humans are by nature social creatures, we must cultivate relationships which help us to flourish and guide us. Though parents wear many hats, they get stressed out, too. As the sole provider of the family, enlisting the help of a trusted friend, counselor, or family member will help take some of the load off. You may even consider co-parenting if you and your ex-partner are on good terms, which is nourishing to a child’s emotional needs and provides stability.

Kids benefit from male and female influences. Though you and your partner are no longer together, retaining female influences will ensure that your children are well-balanced and understand what it means to develop a healthy relationship with themselves and others, which also provides emotional support for you. Even if you decide to raise your daughter or son alone, remember that a dad’s influence is essential, providing a sturdier sense of affection that can carry a child to adulthood. As her father, you model her future expected behaviours from influential men in her life, even if she doesn’t realise it right now.

Eat, Sleep, and Be Merry

The way we eat, drink, love, and cope with stress, depression, anxiety, and sadness all play a big role in the state of our mental health is in. Sometimes, it’s necessary to take a step back and ask yourself if you’re doing the right thing for you, and not the easiest thing. Parents sacrifice so much for their children because they love them. However, too much giving and not enough self-care can have a pretty grave impact.

With the proper amount of sleep, paired with exercise and healthy eating, you can cultivate a happier and more energetic life. Studies conducted by indicate that just one hour less of sleep can significantly impact your day and can lead to obesity and increased hunger, anger, and exhaustion. It’s important to try getting deep and restful sleep each night. Exercise, on the other hand, encourages feel-good hormones, in the form of dopamine. Along with essential nutrients, you’ll successfully fuel yourself for anything the day brings.

Cultivate Gratitude

Mindfulness is the ability to be present. While we all have things to do and places to go, this can be overwhelming which impacts our health tremendously. While mindfulness helps regulate emotional well-being, there are also various ways to develop it. Becoming aware of your surroundings will help you grow more appreciative of what you already have, which is also called gratitude. Gratitude enables us to focus on the good in our lives, and by doing so, we’ll become more relaxed and reach a calmer state of mind, nurturing our gentler side.

Kids can be extremely stressful, but as you wake up in the morning, take in all the things around you that genuinely make you thankful. If you are a working parent, just getting up one hour earlier than usual allows you to use the time to meditate, pray, just be, breathe, and partake in the beauty that’s around you. Take in the surrounding quiet as your children sleep peacefully or how the trees shuffle in the wind as you drink your morning cup of coffee. As you grow more appreciative of everything in your life, you’ll discover the importance of your role a single father.

Fatherhood is one of the greatest things a man can experience and this blog only touches on some of the challenges single fathers face, but keeping these tips in mind will help you to reach your full potential and provide a more joyful life for both you and your family.

Guest blog: Challenges Single Fathers Face kindly written by Daniel from Dad Solo

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